Is your tween or teen dateless this Valentine’s Day? Perhaps you are witnessing them struggle as their peers make Valentine’s Day plans. In the face of our present culture, a dateless Valentine’s Day can leave one feeling unwanted and somewhat miserable.
Your tweens and teens need to know that love is a good thing. Truthfully, it’s a wonderful thing. It’s good because God made it and, in fact, Scripture says God is love (1 John 4:16). Your tweens and teens should look forward to a relationship with their spouse. But just because their significant other isn’t on their arm at the moment, that doesn’t mean there is something lacking in their lives or they are less of a person. This may take some convincing, Mom and Dad, and you’re going to want to really pray for backup, too, because you’ll be going head-to-head with a lot of Hollywood’s messages.
The truth is, waiting for your spouse, and waiting to be in a relationship with God’s blessing, is a very good thing. Young people need to be encouraged that the seeds of self control, patience, and denying self they are sowing now are going to reap a very good harvest in their future marriages. (And this principle is from Scripture too – Galatians 6:7).
So here are a few things you can do with your tween or teen to encourage him or her this Valentine’s Day:
- Write them a Valentine’s Day blessing – who doesn’t enjoy an encouraging note? Writing a few sentences about your hopes or prayers for your child’s future can be a real encouragement.
- Watch a good movie that has a good love story in it – A good love story can impart God’s message of purity and inspire a young person to hold out for that right relationship. Why not watch it as a family and use it as a discussion platform?
- Go on a date – Parent-child dates are a great way to show your sons and daughters how to respect someone and be respected by someone on a date. Another good idea is for you and your spouse to go on your own date. Keeping your marriage strong and healthy will do a LOT of good for your kids and set the example that true, committed love is awesome in its proper timing – something to look forward to.
- Pray for your child’s spouse – We have heard so many heartwarming stories of parents who have prayed for their children’s spouses and the fruit this has born in their lives. Take a moment this Valentine’s Day to pray for your child’s future. Good marriages take work and a lot of grace – why not start praying for those things now? Another thing to pray for is that God would bring about the relationship in His timing and according to His perfect plan. Hollywood has nothing on the beautiful love stories God crafts!